It could be said
Oct. 31st, 2009 01:59 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
That she was an absolute wonderful mother. She made special cakes for birthdays, and was the den mother for a pack of rowdy cub sprouts, she sewed costumes for plays that never quite went as planned and was the greatest cheerleader when things went well and the most marvelous physician of the soul when things went ill.
It could also be said that it was she about whom the phrase "When she was good, she was very, very good, but when she was bad, she was a terror"
And while all this is true, one inescapable fact remained. For good or ill, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, she was my mother.
Rest now, momma. You'll be missed, but by god! You finally made it out. Tell Jamie and Dad and Gary hello and I miss them, okay. Tell 'em I'm sorry I can't be there, but that's not my fate, as you well know, you old psychic you.
Betty Jo Goda Beebe passed through the veil earlier today, Oct 31st, 2009, after eating a breakfast of biscuits and gravy. She walked a new trail, blazed a new path and took a different road after a brief nap.
She always loved Halloween, and now she and Harry Houdini share a date. 'Night, Mom. I'll see you in my dreams.
It could also be said that it was she about whom the phrase "When she was good, she was very, very good, but when she was bad, she was a terror"
And while all this is true, one inescapable fact remained. For good or ill, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, she was my mother.
Rest now, momma. You'll be missed, but by god! You finally made it out. Tell Jamie and Dad and Gary hello and I miss them, okay. Tell 'em I'm sorry I can't be there, but that's not my fate, as you well know, you old psychic you.
Betty Jo Goda Beebe passed through the veil earlier today, Oct 31st, 2009, after eating a breakfast of biscuits and gravy. She walked a new trail, blazed a new path and took a different road after a brief nap.
She always loved Halloween, and now she and Harry Houdini share a date. 'Night, Mom. I'll see you in my dreams.
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Date: 2009-10-31 07:11 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2009-10-31 07:18 pm (UTC)And really, Peace and Love... What Better words can possibly be said in the entire English Language?
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Date: 2009-10-31 07:14 pm (UTC)Love to you, my dear Uncle. If there is anything you need from me, you need only say the word.
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Date: 2009-10-31 07:26 pm (UTC)If there's anything I can do, let me know.
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Date: 2009-10-31 08:26 pm (UTC)I got a six of an ale that I've never had. I think I'll drink a few.
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Date: 2009-10-31 08:43 pm (UTC)Somehow, you don't seem devastated to me. I had a feeling that last trip home would be the last one, and maybe you did too? And you have a pretty clear idea about the whole life-n-death thing, i think, too....
But still... how *are* you feeling, my friend? Tell me true. Not how you SHOULD be feeling, not how rational things are... how are you FEELING?
*sits down beside you and waits with a cold beer just for you*
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Date: 2009-10-31 09:16 pm (UTC)She smiled at me, and for a very brief moment, I had the same mom that made the Lincoln shaped cake for the scouts blue and gold ceremony back home nearly 50 years ago. We both shed a tear or two and I hugged her. She never said anything during the visit that I can remember. Maybe she asked how Sam and his wife were doing, I don't know. Seems she did. but she didn't talk much of anything.
I told her how her old homestead, the farm she was raised on was doing. I told her the house was still there, and being used by a farm couple, while the folks who bought it lived way out in the north 40 in a big old rambling two story house.
Aw, sis... I talked to her for three hours straight and more that day, when I only expected to spend an hour. I talked and talked and talked about Jamie and Sam and Gary and talked about my childhood and how she came through for us, even when she wasn't at her best. And she did, you know? Always, always come through for us. She could be dead stinking drunk, but when the chips were down, she was right there, fighting hell and gone to protect us from harm.
Three hours passed like water down the river, and I wished I could have had more. I don't like nursing homes, but that day the nursing home vanished and it was just Mom and me, talking like old times, like when we would take the two mile walk to the bookstore, talking bout anything from music to art to quantum physics (which she didn't understand then, but I bet she does now). She never lost interest in what we boys were doing, even after the divorce devastated her.
I could ramble on and on and on. You want to know how I'm doing... I'm fine, sis. I didn't know it was the last time, truly. It has been the 'last' time so many times. I just know I enjoyed being with her last July. I've got tears, of course, and I'm a bit sad. I 'spect to see her ghost tonight, because she was always a spooky old lady. Very spiritual, and very much open to EVERYthing.
So, I may be a bit sad, but I'm glad, honey. So glad that Mom is out and about again, running and giving Gary hell for his drinking and drug abuse. I'm glad that she's painting and singing off key and listening to the classics and her Frank. I'm so glad that she's free again, and not confined to a bed and a colostomy bag. I will miss her, but always carry her in my head and heart. She was the best mom I could have wanted, because she made me the person I am now, which brings me such friends and loved ones as you.
The child is the reflection of the parent.
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Date: 2009-11-01 12:55 am (UTC)((( hug )))
I remember all you told me. A complex thing, the relationship one has with their mom. I remember. So the feelings, well, they will be complex too.
I'm here, bro. And yeah, she prolly is, too. *heh*
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Date: 2009-10-31 09:19 pm (UTC)Bless her heart, now she can soar like your birds do. Now she can run like she did as a child. There are no boundaries for her any more.
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Date: 2009-10-31 09:55 pm (UTC)You've my love and my care.
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Date: 2009-10-31 11:14 pm (UTC)My phone is on and I'm here if you need me.
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Date: 2009-11-01 04:42 pm (UTC)YOU are important. You have more love in you and to you than you allow yourself to see or recognize. YOU have no idea how important you are, and that is the way it should be. We should NOT know the depth of our importance, but we should be aware of it. YOU are important. Purely and Simply.
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Date: 2009-11-02 01:26 am (UTC)I am thinking about you tonight.
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Date: 2009-11-03 01:59 am (UTC)If you see Star, pass her my condolences as well.