In *general*, "Things could always be worse" is your pollyanna standard approach, but NOT in a moment of intensive pain. No. In that moment, to speak such a thing, to even *hint* such a thing, is to rub your friends' nose in it, and that is unthinkable.
At that moment, you seek to comfort, to distract, to do ANYTHING to relieve, but never EVER would you do anything you think might make it worse. And pointing out right at that moment that it could be worse.... can actually make it worse.
Later, it's safe to do that. But not right then. Not in the peak pain moment.
Does that make any sense? I'm having a hard time articulating this.....
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branchandroot
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Date: 2008-08-13 07:13 pm (UTC)At that moment, you seek to comfort, to distract, to do ANYTHING to relieve, but never EVER would you do anything you think might make it worse. And pointing out right at that moment that it could be worse.... can actually make it worse.
Later, it's safe to do that. But not right then. Not in the peak pain moment.
Does that make any sense? I'm having a hard time articulating this.....