other half of.... what? Here's the thing. He's testing the waters. He, like me, realizes that it's something that is not pleasing to those around him, so he is seeing how hard it is to quit. He's probably also doing some cash calculating. I would bet he starts to play with "tapering". At this point, if you ask him if he's quitting, he'll go tharn on you. The part of him that likes to smoke will be scared to death, so do not, not, not, ask him if he's quitting. It will drive him to smoke.
If you want to reinforce his quitting, show your approval in other ways, such as occasionally mentioning how much nicer he smells (an important thing to guys, believe it or not), or help him find something to occupy his time when he starts to look antsy and he doesn't want to smoke.
Keep in mind that the grumpy part of not smoking comes from the addiction, as well as the lack of nicotine as a narcotic sedative. It's something that comes and goes and is as unpredictable as hot flashes... which also accompanies the lack of nicotine.
His biggest friend in all this will be your understanding and encouragement, if he truly wants to quit. Keep in mind, he will only really quit when his psyche is ready, and not before. Push too hard, and it will push back. Just sit back, applaud quietly and politely when he makes progress, and understand if he falls back, that sometimes it takes many tries to climb a very steep hill.
"It's easy to quit smoking. I've done it hundreds of times." - Samuel Clemmons (Mark Twain)
Me, I'm doing it by myself, because there's a bunch of folks out there that I love, and would like to NOT offend. Heck, I offend enough without smelling bad.
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If you want to reinforce his quitting, show your approval in other ways, such as occasionally mentioning how much nicer he smells (an important thing to guys, believe it or not), or help him find something to occupy his time when he starts to look antsy and he doesn't want to smoke.
Keep in mind that the grumpy part of not smoking comes from the addiction, as well as the lack of nicotine as a narcotic sedative. It's something that comes and goes and is as unpredictable as hot flashes... which also accompanies the lack of nicotine.
His biggest friend in all this will be your understanding and encouragement, if he truly wants to quit. Keep in mind, he will only really quit when his psyche is ready, and not before. Push too hard, and it will push back. Just sit back, applaud quietly and politely when he makes progress, and understand if he falls back, that sometimes it takes many tries to climb a very steep hill.
"It's easy to quit smoking. I've done it hundreds of times." - Samuel Clemmons (Mark Twain)
Me, I'm doing it by myself, because there's a bunch of folks out there that I love, and would like to NOT offend. Heck, I offend enough without smelling bad.